Today I want to talk to you about why it doesn’t have to be true, that you’ll never be the same again after your miscarriage.
I often hear women who’ve had a miscarriage say that it’s something you never forget, and that you’re never quite the same person again, afterwards. There’s a part of you that doesn’t get over it: it still hurts.
Sometimes people describe taking painful memories and locking them away inside somewhere: walling them up, in your heart or in your head - somewhere that you don’t think about.
A place that you don’t go to because it’s just too painful.
I don’t believe it has to be like this.
I think it’s possible to take all of this pain and grief away, and to feel peaceful about it all.
It is possible to feel like that.
I’ve had 12 miscarriages myself, but it truthfully feels as if I’ve had none.
Really. My miscarriages don’t hurt me at all.
But this didn’t just happen by itself, and it didn’t happen overnight.
I used 2 powerful and effective self-help tools, to help me feel better.
One is EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques, sometimes known as “tapping”) and the other is TAT (Tapas Acupressure Technique.)
“Tapping” and TAT are safe and simple, and they help you to change the way you feel.
These techniques allowed me to take away the painful emotions from all of the memories that were haunting me, after my miscarriages (and I was able to do that without having to re-live any of them!) And they also helped me to grieve.
And now, if I want to, I can think back and remember, without any sharp emotions which catch my breath, or stab my heart, or make me feel sad.
So I would say I’m completely over my miscarriages. And it is possible for you to be over yours, too.
Thank you for reading this, and I wish you all the very best.